10/11/2014 · Robert R

Quit blaming yourself. The pedestrian has responsibilities too. Sounds like you are beating yourself up.
Another point of view….. this is something that happened to you not something you did. The pedestrian didn’t wear visible clothes after dark in a poorly lit area, may have not checked for traffic. There is a reason they didn’t stick around. Either at fault, mental issues etc. it is normal to want to own this, take blame, but not healthy to blame yourself if unwarranted

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My car has been totalled which ordinarily would be an inconvenience but something I could deal with – this week it means that I can’t get back to my home town to be with my family at a very difficult time. My family, especially my mum is already under so much stress that I can’t tell her what has happened. I called her this morning and she told me that she believes my grandma will pass away today.
I’m really trying to hold it together but I feel so low. The only comfort in all of this is that the bystanders and emergency services were so kind and helpful to me yesterday. There was no blame thrown around and their compassion is just about all that is keeping me from losing it.
So, to all of you who are hurting right now, please don’t blame yourselves. We are only human and we make mistakes. Our capacity for compassion and forgiveness is one of the most wonderful things in this world, and just as others extend it to us, we must remember to extend it to ourselves.


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Two things real quick: I agree with everything Hardino said and I just want to encourage you not to take too much blame in all this (and here, I’m referring to your answer to Hardino when you talked about all the stuff you needed to take responsibility for). You know, a relationship is a living, breathing thing and none of us are perfect in it–ever. Of course you’re going to regret some stuff you did. But please do keep in mind that you were grieving your father as well as your dog, and that alone could turn anyone upside down. So please take care of yourself and your mom and do whatever you need to to handle your grief, because that could keep complicating everything else as well.